"Identify the childhood pattern beneath your romantic choices In therapy, Ariana Madix traced her pattern of chasing emotionally unavailable partners back to a father who 'would just be at a random dive bar down the street instead of coming home and helping with homework.' She realized she became a 'straight-A student super overachiever' in part hoping that performing perfection would make people stay — and then recreated the same dynamic with a partner who was 'never fucking home.' She concluded: 'I thought like if I could be the perfect girlfriend, they'll come home, they'll want to be around me and I'll be enough.' Naming the original wound helps break the cycle of unconsciously auditioning for love you already deserve. Source: Ariana Madix, Call Her Daddy, Ariana Madix"