"Reject low-desire blame; name it as a him-problem When the couple's sexual connection declined, Ariana Madix felt the familiar pull to blame herself — until her therapist interrupted that pattern directly in couples sessions. She recounted: 'The couples therapist literally sat across from both of us and said, this is a him problem, this isn't a you problem.' She added that her lifelong core wound was 'the not enough lie,' and the therapist's explicit naming of that lie stopped her from internalizing her partner's behavior as her own failure. Seeking a professional third party who can name whose issue is whose can short-circuit years of misplaced self-blame. Source: Ariana Madix, Call Her Daddy, Ariana Madix"