"Stop rescuing people not ready to change Vaughn described burning significant time and energy trying to help friends change, then realizing the effort was wasted because they weren't ready: "I'm really not that powerful. Like I can't want them to change. And the same way that I probably had people try to help me and I wasn't ready to change." He acknowledged this was rooted in a good impulse — when you find better ways of doing things, you want others to have them — but said the most you can do is "say it once, encourage them, give them grace and be there for them." The practical change: say your piece once, then redirect your energy to your own growth instead of their transformation. Source: Vince Vaughn, Theo Von Podcast, Vince Vaughn Episode"