"Marvel at defaults; they reveal your actual values Chris Bailey's most underrated insight from the book is that your default, automatic behaviors are not enemies to defeat — they are data: "Our values are constructed out of our default intentions." Every habitual action has an underlying motivation, and mapping those motivations onto the 12-value framework shows you what you actually care about, as opposed to what you think you should care about. Rather than constantly fighting defaults with willpower, Bailey recommends first observing them with curiosity: "I think our default habits… sometimes they're worth marveling at. We can admire the person that not only nature has formed, but also that we have formed through the decisions that we've made in the past." Source: Chris Bailey, Modern Wisdom, Intentional: How to Finish What You Start"