"Recognize survival roles that outlast their usefulness David Cox observed that every child in the group home adopted a survival strategy: the tough kid, the pretty girl, the smart kid. He notes that 'what ends up happening is you take those behaviors into adulthood and some are more or less adaptive than others.' The insight is that the role you clung to in a hard season — the overachiever, the caretaker, the jokester — may have saved you then but can limit you now, and naming it explicitly is the first step to choosing whether to keep it. Source: David Cox, Armchair Expert, David Cox Episode"